But there are so many sex toys out there, and truth be told, choosing one can be a bit intimidating. How are you supposed to know which will be the best fit (so to speak!) for you? It’s not like you’re going to poll your Facebook friends (but you might on FetLife!)
1. A Bed Bondage System
What is it? Turn your bedroom into a kinky playground with a restraint system that straps right under your mattress, no matter what size it is. These bondage systems come with padded and adjustable wrist and ankle cuffs. You can remove the bondage system any time you want — it’s as simple as changing your sheets.
The expert take: “This type of sex play can help couples increase their sense of intimacy and improve their sexual communication, as well as help them benefit from an exchange of power and control by switching up submissive and dominant roles,” says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a licensed marriage and sex therapist and resident sex expert at AdamEve.com. “And when you can talkabout sex, you’ll both be able to advocate for better orgasms.”
Is this for you? If you’re in the mood for some adventure, then YES! “This product helps those willing to experiment with light S&M and B&D (bondage and discipline) learn to create new sensations for each other,” says Dr. Van Kirk. Dating expert Laurel House adds, “Be honest, you want to be dominated. Sometimes you want to be tied down and at your man’s mercy.”
What is it? Originally marketed in the 1960s to relieve stress and tension in your back, magic-wand style massagers quickly found their way between ladies’ legs. These massagers are pretty basic in shape and have various speeds and vibration modes for clitoral stimulation.
The expert take: This tried-and-true favorite is like a choose-your-own adventure sex toy, says House. Thanks to all the attachments, you can’t really go wrong. Dr. Van Kirk adds, “The flexible head and long handle work well in a variety of angles, and the large head can stimulate your whole nether region,” explains Dr. Van Kirk. And that means you’ll always be able to pinpoint a perfect position for orgasm.
Is this for you? Many women struggle with vibrators that are simply not strong enough. Magic wand style vibrators offer the strongest vibrations available because they plug directly into the wall.
The one you need to try ASAP: Doxy Handheld Massage – $149.95
3. The Clit Stimulator
What is it? A clit stimulator is just that — a device designed to target this ultra-sensitive part with teasing vibrations. Some, such as the popular butterfly vibrator, are hands-free and can be worn while you do other things (such as oral sex on your guy or girl or reading some erotica).
The expert take: The hands-free butterfly-style vibrators can give you direct clitoral stimulation during sex, and that means experiencing both G-spot and C-spot orgasms, says sex expert Dana Myers of BootyParlor.com. Or you can enjoy a hybrid vibrator (like the one shown) that pairs butterfly flutters for your clit with a vibrating penetrating shaft.
Is it for you? If you’re like many women, this may could be just the type of stimulation your body has been craving. “Most people don’t realize that the clitoris is not just the small visible nub above the vaginal opening. It actually extends in a wishbone shape on either side of the labia — which means that most of us have been ignoring this sensitive erogenous zone. In fact, many women prefer indirect clitoral head stimulation!” says Dr. Van Kirk.
The one you need to try ASAP:The Butterfly Kiss 3 Speed G-Spot Vibrator – $29.95
4. The Rabbit
What is it? This is the most popular sex toy in the world (You probably saw it on Sex and the City years ago!). It offers simultaneous stimulation via shaft that penetrates and pearls that rotate to stimulate your clit.
The expert take: “Rabbit-style vibrators can cause intense, squirting orgasms that can’t be stopped, and every woman should have one in her collection!” says Tyomi Morgan, a sex educator and sexuality coach.
Is it for you? Many women notice that clitoral stimulation when paired with internal vibration offers more consistent orgasms, says Dr. Van Kirk. And with a rabbit vibrator, you don’t need a man to get that.
The one you need to try ASAP:Lovehoney Jessica Rabbit 10 Function Rabbit Vibrator – $54.95
5. The Anal Massager
What is it? Designed with a smaller shaft with the backdoor in mind, anal massagers slide in pretty smooth with a little lube and patience. In guys, they stimulate the prostate, and in women, they stimulate the loads of nerve endings inside the anal canal.
The expert take: Anal massagers can produce strong, full body orgasms that often last a few seconds longer than an orgasm from vaginal sex, says Morgan. “Lube it up, slide it in, and prepare for stimulation unlike anything ever experienced.