What Does a Real Dominant Look Like?

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Contrary to what the erotica burning up e-readers around the world will tell you, not all Dominants wear three-piece suits, own multi-billion dollar corporations, or turn their secretaries into their submissives from the first interview. Books like that are fun to read and certainly get me all steamed up, but trying to find a Dominant that fits that mold is nearly impossible.

Dominant people, because they can be male or female, cis or trans, come in every shape, size, color, sexual preference, income bracket, education level and career. There is no perfect picture of a Dominant. The men don’t all wear suits. The women don’t always wear leather or latex. Many Dominants I know are typically found in jeans and t-shirts.

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So, what does a “real” Dominant look like? In my experience – as someone who loves a Dominant and is friends with others – they all have very similar traits. But here’s the surprising thing: Not one of those traits is physical.

Common Traits of a Real Dominants

Patience

A good Dominant doesn’t rush into giving you commands from the moment you meet. If they do, it’s likely a test. Master M, a friend of mine and Domme (yes, she’s female and yes, she uses the title “Master”), has said many times that if she’s giving a new potential submissive an order, it’s to see if they have a backbone and will stand up to her. Dominants are in no rush to have you bow and kneel before them. They want to get to know you as a person first.

Integrity

The best Dominants do what they say they’re going to do. They’re consistent in thought, speech and action. You know where you stand with them. The reality is that you might not always like what you hear, but you know you’re being told the truth as they see it or they’re doing what they think is best.

Responsibility

Real Dominants, the kind you can trust with your mind and body, understand that they have a responsibility to their submissive. They take responsibility for their actions and their words. Sure, things can be said in anger, but a Dominant with a strong sense of responsibility will own up to their mistakes and work to repair a fractured situation.

Willingness to Learn

Dominants, even those in the lifestyle for many years, know they don’t know everything. They also realize they’re capable of making mistakes. Good Dominants are constantly seeking new information, whether it’s about a new toy to try, a protocol to introduce, or simply a better way to handle the difficult situations that crop up in any relationship.

Communication

Any Dominant worth their salt knows the key to a successful D/s relationship is communication. They not only want to share information and details with you, they also want you to share your thoughts, feelings and needs with them. Based on your own relationship, how you communicate can vary wildly, but the ability is always there.

Consent

No conversation about D/s is ever complete unless we discuss consent. Consent is, according to a Master I know named Cade, not as simple as saying, “Yes.” Consent must be informed. Neither of you, Dominant or submissive, is truly giving clear consent if you don’t know what you’re saying yes to. Clear consent means understanding what’s going to happen, what it will feel like, and what the result will be. (Read more in Yes! Why Consent is Totally Sexy.)

What Other Dominants Say

Every kinkster, Dominant, submissive, top, or bottom is different. None of us are alike, and we come from all walks of life. I reached out to three male Dominants that I trust (one of whom is my own partner) for their take on being a Dominant.

Tom Wolf is married to his submissive and lives in the northeastern United States. Sir Franco Bolli is dating his Princess and lives in Antwerp. Southern Sir shares a bed and home with me as the Daddy Dom to my babygirl self, after more than a year in a long-distance relationship. All three have very different ways of expressing their Dominance, but they also have very clear similarities.

What Makes You Feel Most Dominant?

Tom Wolf

“When I feel in control is when I feel most dominant. Sometimes you enter into a situation or scenario, and it just flows. When that happens, it’s euphoric. My brain is abuzz with positive energy, and it’s likely the time when I’m most relaxed. But Doms aren’t perfect. When I don’t get it right, I used to panic to try and get things even keeled. Now, age and wisdom prevail, and I will admit a momentary point of panic when the reality of not being in control presents itself.

What I’ve learned is that it’s not the missteps or blunders that define you, but how you recover from them, including admitting an error. It’s in that recovery that you garner respect for maintaining composure through being nimble on your feet with the right elixir to remedy the situation. It’s in that moment that your presence, or how others feel about you, which defines your dominance, generates respect and produces that brain-buzz that drives me harder.”

Sir Franco Bolli

“On a date, Princess loves it when I am completely in charge, leaving her with hardly any responsibilities so she can completely let go and enjoy. I love being an old-school gentleman Dom.

Princess and I love rough sex. Choking, hair pulling, biting, and I often use all I’ve got to pin her down, force her down like I’m kind of raping her. That, too, is about Dominance.”

Southern Sir

“We have a number of rituals and protocols in our relationship. The one that stands out the most to me is in the evening after the boys are in bed, Kayla will make me a cup of coffee. She just won’t hand it to me, she kneels down and offers up the cup to me. That act fills me with so much love for her knowing that it is me she kneels for.”

What Gives You the Most Joy or Satisfaction as a Dominant?

Tom Wolf

“I get extreme pleasure from the smiles of those who are happy to have made their decision to follow. Oh, and from giving relentless sexual pleasure to my submissive, lol.”

Sir Franco Bolli

“The trust. And the love, passion and submission I receive from Princess. Taking care of Princess, protecting her, helping her grow. Being given the opportunity to take a part of her life in my hands.”

Southern Sir

“Watching my babygirl grow, and by this I mean reaching for her dreams. Everyone has dreams, but to watch her reaching for them and to see them coming to life for her gives me an overwhelming feeling of joy.”

What Advice Do You Have for Those New to the Lifestyle?

Tom Wolf

“Trust more, judge less. Love more and exercise patience, forgive mistakes. Open your mind, explore boundaries, free your soul. Beware of phonies and posers. They will suck the life out of you without you even knowing it.

Read and research a lot. And then do some more. Tools of the kink can be disfiguring or deadly in the wrong hands. Understand their intended purpose, predicted outcomes, and pleasure to both the giver and receiver. But whatever you do, do it in the name of respect. Your dignity and respect are the only things you will ever have that are nearly impossible to recover once lost.”

Sir Franco Bolli

“Every story is a different one and each has other players with their own pasts, wishes and so on. D/s is a lifestyle that can be implemented in so many different ways. There is no one size fits all.

I guess my most important advice would be: talk. Communication is everything and it means not only talking but, equally important, listening.”

Southern Sir

“Ask questions, find the local munch in your area, meet people that live the lifestyle. Find the people that have been a part of it for the last 25 – 30 years and ask them questions, watch them, learn and grow.”

Did you notice that no one advised ordering a total stranger to kneel, call them ‘Sir’ or otherwise act submissive from the first few moments? The people who do that aren’t good Dominants. Some are simply posers and abusers looking for new victims. Others are uneducated or too arrogant for their own good, sometimes a combination of both. Avoid them at all costs.”

National Masturbation Month – Not Just for Wankers

Will you be actively celebrating National Masturbation Month? 
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Cyndi Darnell has over 20 years experience studying and understanding sex and sexuality. In addition to formal qualifications in Clinical Sexology, Counselling and adult Education, she also brings knowledge of contemporary Tantra and Sexological Bodywork. Cyndi is uniquely placed to embrace, understand and challenge the diversity of human sexuality; and, of course, tell us all about masturbation.

Masturbation: It’s not just for wankers!

Masturbation: It's not just for wankers!

Masturbation. I am assuming that on a site like this, most of you are already pretty familiar with it, and are also fairly OK with sex being an important part of your life.

But masturbation is a really important part of our sexuality. Practicing masturbation can actually expand and enhance our erotic experiences with others. Who woulda thunk it?

Any of you that are familiar with my work know that I am a great advocate of deep, focussed sensual sex as a pathway to heightened orgasms, deeper connections and and more powerful erotic experiences that leave you longing for more, more, MORE! Here are a few tips to spice up your masturbation to improve your technique and bring more BANG to your bedroom escapades!

1. Practice slowing your masturbation down Why? You get to focus on different parts of your genitals or nipples. For example, if you are accustomed to quick wanking or using a vibrator to get off, practice using a slower technique and notice which parts of your genitals and nipples are more sensitive than others.

2. Penises. Instead of just jerking off to orgasm, try stimulating one part of your cock at a time.  A lot of  folks find the frenulum (this is the yummy little triangle in the underside of your penis where it joins the foreskin  – where it is or was) is really a delicious spot to touch with the pad of your forefinger. Using lube, make little circles on this area  and experiment with pressure and speed.

2a. Practice extending your orgasm by getting yourself turned on, but just before you feel you are about to come, take your hands away and shift your breathing to your nose only. This helps you control your ejaculation giving you more choice about how you come and when. Practicing this regularly is a great way to train yourself to last longer during partnered sex.

3. Labia. Take the time to get to know your labia. Both inner and outer. If you haven’t had a good look at yours, may May the month to get out a mirror and have a look around. Using lube really explore the areas you mightn’t usually, like the area between the labia and the forchette, the area where the lips meet at  their lowest point, above the anus. How long does it take for your pussy to start to swell?  Take selfies of your pussy before, during and after arousal – to see how much it varies during these stages of arousal.

3a. Rock around the Clit Clock. (I learnt this one from my pal Barbara Carrellas) Imagine your clit is a clock face  Spend 2 minutes making tiny circles with your finger on each point of the clock face.Use lube but not too much – it desensitises. Which o’clocks feel best to you? A lot of us find the area between 5 o’clock and 7 o’clock the most divine.

4. Instead of racing to orgasm, see how much stimulation you can take and how long it takes you to get to maximum wetness, hardness and arousal. For a lot of us it can be a while. You might surprise yourself at just how much pleasure you can have. After all, why scoff down a delicious meal. Learn to savour each nibble as if it were your last!

All this masturbation and attention to detail gives you more knowledge of your body and how it works and what it loves. The more you know the more you can share with others.

This article has been re-blogged from Adult Match Maker

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25 (Weird & Wonderful) Facts about Masturbation

Masturbation Month gives us the perfect opportunity to share some serious, strange and even funny trivia facts about masturbation.

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  1. The most damaging myth about masturbation is that it’s a sign something is wrong in your relationship. The fact is that most people masturbate. They masturbate if they’re single, in a bad relationship, or in a great relationship. It has nothing to do with their partners or the quality of their sex life.
  2. People who masturbate report to have happier marriages (and lives!) than those who refuse to twirl the pearl.
  3. People who have sex regularly masturbate more often than those who don’t. And married people are more likely to masturbate than people living alone. [National Health & Social Life Survey]
  4. Can you masturbate too much? The American Psychiatric Association says that unless masturbation is getting in the way of your everyday life (work, friendships, footy) there’s no such thing as too much self love!
  5. Adult Match Maker’s Under the Covers Sex Survey found that 20% of women admitted to masturbating daily and 45% weekly. [Adult Match Maker “Under the Covers” Survey 2014]
  6. Both men and women are more likely to experience their first orgasm through masturbation.
  7. The Kama Sutra, the ancient Indian Hindu sex manual from 400 BC, included masturbation techniques.
  8. Orgasms from masturbation can strengthen your immune system and for guys it’s thought masturbation can help prevent prostate cancer. So, keep your hand in, it’s good for your health!
  9. There are absolutely no health risks associated with masturbation (besides a little chafing).
  10. Masturbation has proven health benefits like stress management, secretion of endorphins & cardiovascular exercise.
  11. Watching their partner masturbate can be an amazing turn on for most guys.
  12. A study found that 40% of women prefer masturbation over actual sex.
  13. Over 75% of women surveyed in Adult Match Maker’s Under the Covers Sex Survey said that they orgasm faster when they masturbate. [Adult Match Maker “Under the Covers” Survey 2014]
  14. Legend tells us it was the seductress Cleopatra who invented the first vibrator. Rather than being carved from wood or rock, it was a gourd hollowed out and filled with … wait for it … angry bees. There is even record of Julius Caesar giving Cleo an elaborately carved, gold inlaid penis “sculpture.” Don’t worry she had plenty of lube, in 350 BC people were using olive oil!
  15. A study found that 35% of respondents in a relationship still masturbate weekly compared to 60% who are single. [Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey]
  16. Masturbation isn’t only about sex, for many it’s a routine way of relieving stress, clearing your head before work or going to sleep.
  17. The electric home vibrator was on the market 9 years before the electric vacuum cleaner and 10 years before the electric iron! At least they had their priorities right!
  18. The Japanese term for female masturbation is “shiko shiko manzuri” which translates to “ten thousands rubs”.
  19. Contrary to myth (or perhaps wishful thinking) the penis is not lengthened by masturbation.
  20. One of the first vibrators was a steam-powered device called the “Manipulator”. Obviously not named by a man!
  21. Ancient Egyptians believed their God Amun masturbated and his seed created civilization.
  22. Human aren’t the only ones to itch the ditch – monkeys, walruses and deer have all been documented pleasuring themselves. Scientists have even observed female apes using sticks for added pleasure.
  23. All orgasms are not created equally. It’s a little known fact that the makeup of semen is different when you masturbate to when you have sex.
  24. Masturbating at night can help you sleep by lowering blood pressure and easing stress and tension. So if you’re having trouble sleeping, put those fingers to work!
  25. Based on the findings of our survey, 19,840 Aussies rubbed one out in the time it took you to read this article! [Adult Match Maker “Under the Covers” Survey 2014]

The only problem with masturbation is there’s no one to cuddle with afterwards!

This article has been re-blogged from Adult Match Maker

To celebrate National Masturbation Month, Taboo Radio (in conjunction with Lovehoney Australia) are giving away one Lovehoney Desire Luxury USB Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator (valued at $109.95) and one Lovehoney Sqweel XT for Men USB Rechargeable Oral Sex Simulator (values at $99.95).

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Under the Covers

Sydney sexologist Dr Michelle Mars believes we need to be more light-hearted and pleasure focused in our sexual thinking. We LOVE that!
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Fap vs Fiddle

May is Masturbation Month. We’ve done research to help us understand what it’s all about. Over 7,600 people took part in our Under the Covers Sex Survey so that gives us some great data to find out where do we do it? who do we do it with? and what are the major differences between masturbation for men and women?

We instinctively know some of the answers to these questions, men do it more frequently (see below) and women use vibrators (80% compared with 20% of men) but let’s have a deeper look at some of our habits and desires when it comes to sex with ourselves.

Masturbation frequency

What are those statistics telling us? In general women are less likely to masturbate than men but they are more likely to masturbate once a week than men. Why?

Personally I don’t think it has anything to do with desire I think it’s about where we are comfortable masturbating, or even the fact that most women use a vibrator and even the little ones are noisy.

Our statistics show no significant differences when it comes to masturbating in private; with a partner (women 79%, men 76%), a friend (women 34%, men 27%) or with someone on the internet (women 49%, men 47%) . But when things become a little less private it seems men are more adventurous than women with 38% of men saying they masturbate at work compared to only 25% of women.

Masturbation frequency

I think men are more likely to take the risk that others might know they popped out for a quick wank because men’s sexuality is more socially acceptable than women’s, made so through myths that men have higher sex drives and irresistible needs. Women on the other hand historically have occupied the moral high ground when it comes to sex. We’re supposed to be more in control of our urges and in the past if we strayed from the path and heaven forbid got pregnant we became fallen women, socially marginalised and financially compromised. Today we know this is no longer the case but the myth prevails.

So girls and boys what are we going to do to make sure that women get to catch up on the masturbations stats. I’d suggest some me time, some do not disturb I am having a wank time, it’s definitely time women came out of the closet. A quick flick of the bean is revitalising, lifts your spirits and puts a smile on your face. Yay for May, let’s celebrate!

This article has been re-blogged from Adult Match Maker

To celebrate National Masturbation Month, Taboo Radio (in conjunction with Lovehoney Australia) are giving away one Lovehoney Desire Luxury USB Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator (valued at $109.95) and one Lovehoney Sqweel XT for Men USB Rechargeable Oral Sex Simulator (values at $99.95).

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Just Like Christmas! 🎁

A box arrived on my doorstep. I was expecting it. I brought it inside. I didn’t open it immediately. I just looked at it.

I phoned a friend of mine, Nya. I didn’t want to open the box alone.

I waited about 6 hours for Nya to arrive so we could open the box.

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It was my delivery from LoveHoney! Sex toys are no fun to open by yourself – especially this many! I wanted a friend to play with (not PLAY with just play with) when I opened all of these treasures.

giveaway ads 2The first ones we took out were the prizes for the National Masturbation Month Giveaway – I wouldn’t want to open them mistakenly.

Next, we opened and touched every toy remaining in the box – this was going to be exciting!

So, over the remainder of the month, I will be reviewing the toys from this box.

Shall we start, class?

Lovehoney Triple Tickler G-Spot Realistic Dildo Vibrator

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GiGi

Price: $39.95

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First Impressions

Oh… 😟 it kinda looks like a rabbit vibrator – without the protruding rabbit. Instead, it has a “trio” of nubs. If you watch the video at the bottom of the page, the presenter will tell you it’s realistic because of the veins and contoured head. Hmmm… I don’t know any cocks that look like this so I’m not sold on the realistic thing, either!

It has a vibrating shaft and nubs; where the hell is the triple part? The shaft is more bent than ‘normal’ vibrators – the box says this “targets your G-spot with expert precision.”

Okay…I’m still a little disappointed (I did open GiGi after the Magic Wand Mini (you’ll have to wait to see what I mean by that!)) but we’ll see…

How GiGi measures up

Length: 9 inches

Insertable Length: 5.5 inches

How GiGi feels

Gigi, in comparison to other vibrators of its type, is extremely flexible (“targets your G-spot with expert precision”). Made from a skin-safe rubber, GiGi can swim and dive (unsure about how far!) in the bath, shower or more exhibitionist-happy, wet places.

FYI: no latex

My Experience

It has been quite a while since I have had anything ‘up there,’ (I’m very much a clit chick) so I lubed up GiGi pretty well. Wow! I still LOVE that ‘filled-up’ feeling.

nubsI turned on the multi-speed controller (rather uncomfortably situated at the base of the vibrator) and felt the tickle – it was hitting the right places. I turned the speed up a tad – the tickle grew. However, the nubs didn’t really tickle my clit. I pushed GiGi in further – okay, that was better but still just a tickle.

I set GiGi to work at  her highest speed. I was getting there; I was getting there…but GiGi wasn’t going to be able to push me over into the abyss. I decided I needed to up the intensity on the nubs 💪 BUT you can’t do that with GiGi.

I leaned over on my side (ooh! that’s a little more like it but still not quite) and grabbed my Doxy. Doxy was placed against my clit and against GiGi (at a lower intensity than normal). Holy shit, Batman! Doxy pushed GiGi to new heights. Because GiGi’s curved head sits on your g-spot easily and comfortably, the extra power from the Doxy brought my first grunting orgasm very quickly (about 1 minute) after the build up from GiGi alone 👌. Then, turning Doxy down even further, I enjoyed the aftershocks.

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CONs

  • hits the right spot
  • quiet
  • waterproof
  • battery operated (2 x AAs not included)
  • Built in – twist base controller (personally I find that annoying when in the throes of ecstasy)
  • not enough power

Final Thoughts

For the price, this is a pretty good toy. It would be great for some-one just starting out with toys. If you’ve been playing with a heavy-duty, plug-in wand, however, I don’t think this will do the trick…sorry 😞Tickler rating

My rating:

So, this is my first review of a sex toy – have I missed anything? Do you need to know more? Please let me know.

Please note: LoveHoney provided this item free of charge but, in no way, influenced this review.

 

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Speets, Speeters and Speeting

Last weekend, I met 13 people – actually, it was 10; I already knew 3 people – very quickly! And it was 13 10 KINKY people!

Last weekend, I went SPEETING! (No! No chefs were hurt!) Speed Meeting or SPEETING is a social event for the kink/fetish community based on the awful (and awfully familiar, thanks to US TV) Speed Dating format: meet a potential partner, spend 5 minutes with said potential partner, say good-bye to said potential partner, go home feeling old and lonely.

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And this is where SPEETING is different.  It is not divided by binary genders or roles so you have the opportunity to just meet people. Any of those people could become a friend, a partner, a mentor, a protégé, a connection.

This is the perfect chance for kinksters new to the scene, looking to meet like-minded people, or those who just find it hard to get out. It is open to anyone wanting to make some new connections in the Melbourne kink community. All that is required is a real interest in meeting other kinksters, an open mind, and a respectful attitude.

12642732_1014895771887468_3186550103260431814_nArmed with these requirements, I arrive at Splinter, nervous and giggly. A quick hug from Mis Knickers and I’m handed an envelope containing a ‘Prompt Card’, paper and pen. My Prompt Card questions:

  • What kind of vegetable would you be?
  • Why is Nicholas Cage such a good actor?
  • What was the last movie you saw?

These and other conversation starters are there to help you out if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed. Believe me, 5 minutes can really seem like a really, really long time if you’re not really clicking at all, really! The pen and paper are for my own note-taking during our (very) short breaks. The only problem, if you got along with your current SPEETer, is you tried to fit in more conversation and missed that 1 minute break; so I missed taking notes…and then I was onto the next SPEET.

Woah! Thirteen of those is a tad overwhelming (for me!) Thirteen SPEETs that all blended into one (because I talk too much!) Perhaps I’ll improve with practice?

It’s all very casual and comfortable, and fast!

If you’re interested in SPEETING, the next one is 28th May. Or message Mis Knickers or Renee Glover with any questions.

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Make Time for Yourself

As if anyone needed an excuse, May is National Masturbation Month. Make sure to keep some time for yourself!

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Masturbation is the foundation for human sexuality, for both men and women, but only a few of us admit doing it or even discuss it because it’s considered a taboo subject. This is a real pity because masturbation may:

  1. Promote the release of endorphins, the neurotransmitters associated with happy feelings that can improve overall mood and fight off depression.
  2. Produce a chemical called oxytocin, which works as a natural pain reliever.
  3. Help reduce headaches and muscle aches.
  4. Relieve stress and tension and aid relaxation after a stressful day.
  5. Provide a sexual outlet for people who are on their own, by choice or circumstance.
  6. Help to induce sleep, or conversely, help to start the day with more energy.
  7. Improve the immune system and contribute to overall health.
  8. Strengthen muscle tone in the genital and pelvic floor area, which can lead to better sex.
  9. Keep you free from sexual transmitted infections as it’s the safest kind of sex.
  10. Help people who suffer from Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS), a neurological disorder causing leg pain, cramps, tingling and itching, (published in the medical journal Sleep Medicine). Several doctors in the US have had confirmation from their patients that it helps.
  11. Translate into better sex as stimulating each other at the same time is intimate and rewarding. People often masturbate into old age.

Possible health benefits for women:

  1. Combats pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with the menstrual cycle, such as cramps.
  2. Relieves painful menstruation by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region; which will also reduce pelvic cramping and related backaches.
  3. Builds resistance to yeast infections.
  4. Allows women to explore and understand their bodies better, so they will know what they like when they have sex with a partner.

Possible health benefits for men:

  1. May help combat premature ejaculation by training to last longer; it’s easier to practise control when on your own.
  2. Regular flushing of the system keeps semen healthy.
  3. Frequent masturbation helps in preventing the development of prostate cancer. Cancer-causing chemicals can build up in the prostate if men do not ejaculate regularly.

COUPLEAlmost everyone self-pleasures, but for men it’s easier because their genitals are visible from an early age. Young men can use masturbation as a way to learn how to control their ejaculations.

Today there are still girls and women who have never seen their genitals and are not always aware the clitoris needs direct stimulation to achieve an orgasm. I keep telling my clients that masturbation is a great way to explore and learn about their bodies. When you know your likes and sexual responses, you can show your partner how to give you an orgasm.

There are also some interesting misunderstandings. Some people believe that when you are in a relationship you don’t need to masturbate anymore – others see it as cheating, but nothing is further from the truth.

Given the negative messages children often receive about touching themselves while growing up; it’s understandable they may retain elements of shame and embarrassment which can affect their sexuality for the rest of their lives.

Since the sexual revolution in the mid-1970s attitudes to masturbation have changed, but the stigma is still persistent. Just Google the word and one of the first results it returns is “masturbation is a sin”.

In 1992 Seinfeld aired the controversial episode The Contest. George had been caught “in the act” by his mother, and his friends Jerry, Elaine and Kramer discuss the incident over lunch.  They decide to have a contest about who can last the longest without – as George puts it – “you know”! The word masturbation was not mentioned at all, but the episode was one of the most popular ever.

Things have changed slowly, but these days society is very comfortable with women’s bodies being sexualised, but not with women being shown to be sexual.

In Delhi, young women were interviewed about their attitudes to masturbation. Finding the women wasn’t easy as many were too shy and considered it taboo. But the women who did were very open-minded and spoke freely about the topic.

The concept behind this video was to persuade the public to change their attitudes about masturbation, which is not considered a sin in Indian culture and therefore nothing to be ashamed of. In any case, India is the country where the Kama Sutra originated, the most ancient book on the pleasures of sensual living.

To celebrate National Masturbation Month, I (in conjunction with Lovehoney Australia) am giving away one Lovehoney Desire Luxury USB Rechargeable Remote Control Love Egg Vibrator (valued at $109.95) and one Lovehoney Sqweel XT for Men USB Rechargeable Oral Sex Simulator (values at $99.95).

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