It’s Dr Seuss Day, #littles!

I am Dom!

Dom I am.

 

Oh, Dom-I-am

And B D S M!

I do not like

That Dom-I-am!

 

Do you like B D S M?

 

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am.

I do not like B D S M.

 

B D S M

Would you like it

Here or there?
I would not like it

Here or there.

I would not like it

Anywhere.

I do not like B D S M

Oh, Dom-I-Am.

 

Would you like it

As a slave?

Would you like it –

Are you brave?

 

I do not like it

As a slave.

I do not like it,

I’m not brave.

 

I do not like it

Here or there.

I do not like it

Anywhere.

I do not like B D S M

I do not like it, Dom-I-am.

 

Would you try it

With a top?

Would you try it

With a crop?

 

Not with a top.

Not with a crop.

Not as a slave.

Not what I crave.

 

I would not try it

Here or there.

I would not try it

Anywhere.

I would not try B D S M

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am!

 

Would you? Could you

In a lair?

Would you? Could you

As a dare?

 

Not in a lair.

Not as a dare.

Not as a slave.

Not what I crave.

 

I would not try it

Here or there.

I would not try it

Anywhere.

I would not try B D S M

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am!

You may like it,

You will see,

You may like it,

If it’s me.

 

I would not, could not

If it’s You.

Not as a dare!

I might spew!

 

I do not like it

With a top.

I do not like it

With a crop.

 

I do not like it

As a slave.

I do not like to

Be so brave.

 

I do not like it

Here or there.

I do not like it

Anywhere.

I do not like B D S M

I do not like it, Dom-I-am.

 

Some pain!

More pain!

Could you, would you

With some chain?

 

Not with pain!

Not with chain!

Not as a slave!

Dom! Behave!

 

I would not, could not

With a top!

I would not, could not

With a crop.

 

I will not be

So very brave.

I will not do it

As a slave.

 

I would not do it

Here or there.

I would not do it

Anywhere.

I do not like B D S M

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am

 

Say! As a puppy!

Here in the dark!

Would you, could you

Loudly bark?

 

I would not, could not

In the dark.

I would not, could not

Loudly bark.

Not in a lair. Not with you.

Dom-I-am, take Your cue.

 

You do not like B D S M?

 

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am

 

Could you, would you, with a whip?

 

I would not, could not with a whip!

 

Would you, could you within my grip?

 

I could not, would not

With a whip.

I could not, would not

Within your grip.

 

I would not, could not

With the pain.

I would not, could not

Too much strain.

 

I do not like it

With a top.

I do not like it

With a crop.

 

 

I will not try it

As a slave.

I will not try to

Be that brave.

 

I do not like it

Here or there.

I do not like it

Anywhere.

I do not like B D S M!

I do not like it, Dom-I-Am.

 

You do not like it.

So you say.

Try it! Try it!

And you may.

Try it and you may, I say.

 

Dom!

If you will let me be,

I will try it.

You will see.

 

DOM!

 

I like B D S M!

I do! I like it, Dom-I am!

 

And I would like to

Feel your grip!

And I would like it

With your whip!

 

And in a lair

Being brave.

It is so good

It’s pain I crave.

 

So I will try it

With a top.

And I will try it

With a crop.

 

And I will try it

As a slave.

And I will try to

Be so brave.

 

And I will try it

Here and there.

I will try it

Everywhere.

 

I do so like,

B D S M

Thank You!

Thank you!

Dom-I-am!

 

Top Tip(s) to Re-cycle #Tinsel

In the spirit of Festivus, the Marquis De JJ organised a holiday-themed photo shoot. We soon discovered that tinsel does not come in rope-length dimensions…or, for that matter, rope strength!

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

Model: Cassie Photographer: Marquis De JJ

 

On the First Day of Christmas

On the 1st day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

A Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 2nd day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 3rd day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 4th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 5th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 6th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads,.4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 7th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 8th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

8 Floggers Flogging, 7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 9th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

9 Candles Dripping, 8 Floggers Flogging, 7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 10th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

10 Lords a Whipping, 9 Candles Dripping, 8 Floggers Flogging, 7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 11th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

11 Pairs of Stockings, 10 Lords a Whipping, 9 Candles Dripping, 8 Floggers Flogging, 7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

On the 12th day of Christmas, my master gave to me…

12 Orgasms Screaming, 11 Pairs of Stockings, 10 Lords a Whipping, 9 Candles Dripping, 8 Floggers Flogging, 7 Crops a Swinging, 6 Tubes of KY, 5 Anal Beads, 4 Ball Gags, 3 Blindfolds, 2 Nipple Clamps…..and a Small Feather Pillow for my knees.

Imagine…

from Dominant Soul

The Excitement Builds…

So, when we visited SEXPO (with our official media passes), we met lots of new friends…

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A couple of our new friends, Kim Cums and Lucie Bee, will be our guests on Wednesday’s show:

And then, lucky us, they’ll be staying in Melbourne to come to our party ‘An Evening with O‘ (you had your chance to win tickets, you know!) We’re rather excited about their visit AND the party.

It seems that Kim is a bit excited, too…

HOW TO BE A DOM: 12 simple-ish steps for Beginner Doms

Original post by Master James on Fetlife.

You may have only just found Fetlife (or not), you may have only just found your local Kink community, you may have only just had the epiphany that you are a Dom.

Suddenly, your life all makes sense. The penny has dropped and all the cogs in your head are turning, in what feels like the first time. Now you know you are dominant, you want to get on with the business actually being a Dominant. But where to start?

The following is nothing more than the opinion of one man. It is not designed to put anyone down, be condescending or negative. It is designed to empower, guide, and give a start point for men new to the concept of Dominance as a life choice and relationship role.

Step 1: Understand what a Dom is

A Dom is someone who wishes to express dominance over someone’s life. A Top is someone who wishes to play a dominant role during a scene. People can be either or both. But understand that being a Dom is a huge responsibility, and your priorities need to be more noble than getting sexual gratification. It needs to be about helping, bettering, and protecting your Sub. It involves an enduring power exchange dynamic that brings fulfilment to all parties involved.

Step 2: Don’t believe the hype

Being a Dom is long, monotonous, frustrating, and fucking hard work. It isn’t being Christian Grey, it isn’t being a performer on Kink.com, it isn’t some teenage boy fantasy. Doms don’t have super powers over subs. Subs have brains and free will, and will tell you to fuck off and eat a dick regularly. No D/s relationship is as perfect and glossy as their Fetlife profile would lead you to believe.

Step 3: Don’t try and Dom the world

Identifying as a Dom doesn’t mean that every Sub will suddenly submit to you. In fact, most will only submit to their own D type. If a sub is generous and polite enough to call you Sir, don’t let it fool you into thinking you’re special. Don’t try to Dom the Dommes. At best they will kick you in the balls, at worst they will tell people what a dick you are, and it will ruin your reputation. In small kink communities, reputation and word of mouth rule supreme. Don’t assume that all women are subs at heart, and they just need to meet the right uber man to teach them their place.

Step 4: Don’t lie or exaggerate

Don’t claim to have 15 years experience when you’re 25. People can do maths. And the first time you had a naughty dream or touched a booby doesn’t count as the start of your training. If you’re 50, don’t try and bullshit us into believing that you have unlocked the secrets to the universe. Lying about your experience just undermines credibility and trust.

Step 5: Choose your heroes wisely

Just like I warned you against bullshitting; others will bullshit too. Don’t believe every claim you hear or read. If you do, you could be learning from some total douche, who has less real world experience than you. The kink work has no shortage of self-proclaimed prophets of uber domly dominance who are extremely proficient at talking the talk, but are utterly useless at walking the walk. Before you put someone on a pedestal, and treat every word they say as gospel, make sure your brain is still engaged. Use your common sense and display some discretion. On the flip side. There are some amazing teachers. I have a few amazing people I look to for guidance in roping. I have some incredibly experienced people I get advice from in regards to running BDSM scenes. And I get to be mentored by a man with the deepest understanding of D/s and M/s I have ever met.

Step 6: Be eager to learn

Leading a functional D/s relationship is hard and full of pitfalls. It’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes, rather than making them yourself. Likewise, being a safe and competent Top requires a lot of skill and knowledge. Being a Domly Dom doesn’t instantly make you awesome at everything. If you want to do rope, go and learn from those that can. If you want to do medical play, go and learn from those that can. There are countless experienced and knowledgable people who run workshops or regular courses in just about any kink related activity you can think of. Don’t be too proud to go and learn.

Step 7: Understand the limitations of your new skill or knowledge

Ever heard the saying that a little bit of knowledge is a dangerous thing? Well it’s true. Too many new Doms either think that they know everything already, or they think that one class makes them an expert. Likewise, the word “Dom” and the word “Egomaniac” are virtually synonyms. And too many Doms don’t want to admit to a sub that they don’t know something, aren’t an expert at something, and probably shouldn’t Top a particular type of play. They are worried the cute little sub girl will run off with a more proficient Top or Dom, and they’ll be left sitting there all alone, with nothing but their dick in their hand. If there is a type of play that I’m not good at, or not that into, and one of my subs wants to have a scene involving it; I’ll actively go and ask another Top or Dom who is great at it, if they are willing to run a scene with her. The end result is: The other Top or Dom gets to play with someone new, while doing what they love. My sub gets a safe, fulfilling experience. I get to watch and learn. And at the end, everyone thanks me, even though I did jack shit!

Step 8: Don’t try and be something you’re not

“Know thy self”…. “To thy own self be true”….. Familiar and wise sayings that the best of us struggle to follow. But the more honest you are with yourself, the more honest you will be with others, and the more honest they will be in return. I’m not a Sadist. It took me a while to realise and accept that. I once thought that as a Dom, I was expected be one. I’m not monogamous. I thought that there was something wrong with me. I was always conflicted and felt overwhelmed with shame and guilt. But if you’re trying to be something you’re not, then you’re lying to yourself. And you’re certainly not ready to take responsibility for someone’s submission.

Step 9: Examine yourself regularly

Time never stops, and people change. This includes Doms. We aren’t some a universal constant like one of Newtons Laws. You will change. This may include likes, dislikes, kinks, hard limits, methods of play, relationship needs, or orientation. Constant self analysis will keep you up to date with who you are, and give you the best data, with which to lead your D/s relationship. Likewise, the better you are at analysing yourself, the better you will be at analysing your Sub.

Step 10: Take your time

D/s relationships are a marathon, not a sprint. All the rope, and wax, and flogging aside, there is a very real relationship that requires constant work. This might seem obvious, but it’s foundation is in one person dominating, and the other submitting to that dominance. This is expressed through control, and control is exhibited and reinforced by the introduction of rules and structure. This isn’t a quick and easy thing to introduce for either person. It starts off small and simple, and becomes more intricate and strict as new rules or protocols are introduced over time. Please take your time with this. If you try too much too soon, the D/s dynamic will implode. All your eagerness will be doing will be setting yourself for failure…. So take a deep breath; think and plan long term. And remember; patience is a virtue.

Step 11: Be forgiving of submissives

Subs are people; people fuck up. If you expect perfection, then you’re a fucking idiot. If you are going to dump people and throw them out like trash when they make mistakes, then you are not worthy of the title or role of a Dom. If you can’t accept and love all of a person, then you are a shallow twat, who needs to stop living in fantasy-land and grow up. I know of far too many amazing Subs, who have been cast aside like garbage for minor indiscretions, that the D type wouldn’t think twice of making himself. Sure, we want to correct mistakes and slowly iron them out of the lives of our subs. But please have realistic expectations.

Step 12: Be forgiving of yourself

Many Doms believe all the crap about always being right, that when they do fuck up, they don’t even know how to process that information. Not only that, but they have led their sub into a belief that their Dom can’t be wrong either. So suddenly it shatters their belief in their D type. Don’t fall into this trap. Try your best to be perfect, but expect to fall short on occasions. And when you do; forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on. The path you are on, is as much about bettering yourself, as it is about bettering your sub. Just do your best everyday to be the Dom that she deserves, and she will never have a reason to look anywhere else or ask for anything more in life.

Bonus Level= Don’t believe your ego

At some point, if you’re lucky, you’ll actually start to get ok with a lot of this stuff. You may start helping others, mentoring someone, teaching classes or workshops, or even writing “How to” guides on Fetlife…… You may experience success, fulfilment, and gain standing within the community as a good Dom and a community leader. People may write to you asking your advice. You may become a regular on K&P. Little sub girls might throw themselves at you, begging to suckle on your penis, so that they might feed on your domly dominance….. But whatever happens, don’t believe that any of it matters. Don’t believe that it makes you infallible, above reproach, or the new messiah of the Dom-domain. You are just a bloke, on a journey of discovery and fulfilment, that happens to have gotten lucky a few times along the way. So no matter what you do: Don’t start listening to your ego. It will be the end of it all if you let it take over. Because ego makes you focus on yourself, and your focus needs to be on those you love, cherish, care for, and protect.

I hope this has been of help to some, and hasn’t pissed off the rest too much.

Peace, love, and Respect – Master James

Because We Had Mis Knickers

Our special in-studio guest last night was the adorable Mis Knickers, Splinter Ambassador, workshop co-ordinator and author, we chose our Sub Challenge accordingly:

We will be publishing the stories we receive here; so, are you a budding writer? Or just want to reveal your fantasy? Please contribute.

Holy Predicament, Batman!

This is Predicament Bondage

Predicament bondage is a type of bondage that puts the sub in a situation where they have to choose between two or more unpleasant(!) positions or outcomes.

It is pretty typical for a scene to target smaller parts of the body, like fingers, toes, hair, nipples, or even more intimate areas like testicles and the clitoris. In these areas small movements are more likely to be felt! For example: if you tie the sub’s hair with rope on one end and anchor it to the ceiling by the rope while the sub is standing on his/her tip toes, this puts them in a predicament. They have the choice to remain on their tip toes or to flatten their feet causing the rope to pull on their hair. The purpose is to put them in a situation where any movement, such as wiggling will have a consequence which is uncomfortable most of the time.

If you want to try predicament bondage without pain, you can. That’s what’s cool about predicament bondage, there are so many different scenarios that can make this fun to play around with.

Another example is having a sub lay prone on the floor and placing safety votive candles on his/her body in various areas. The sub has to breathe so, not only is it a balancing game but, he/she has to concentrate to keep the wax from spilling onto the skin.

Predicament bondage is a good way to add psychological elements into not just the physical.

This is one of type of play where the sky really is the limit. Just remember: play safe. Make sure when trying something new that you educate yourself and think about every safety issue that might come up. Have a safe word set up ahead of time. Sometimes things sound like fun but end up not being what you thought it was going to be.

…and don’t forget the aftercare!

 

We’re Having a Party!

TeamTaboo has decided that we NEED a party! We have a HUGE space and loads (and loads) of equipment…so what else would you do, except have a party! Hmmm…now what would be a good reason to have a party?

A-ha! Friday 27th November is the 40th anniversary of the German (if you love porn, it has to be German!) release of The Story of O – there couldn’t be a better reason!

There will be cocktails, food (including popcorn, I hope!), The Story of O, followed by play-time…Yay! It’ll be a private party – invitation only!

Do you want to come? We’re giving away 15 double invitations to An Evening with O.

Before you get too excited (I am!), the party is in Melbourne, Australia so you need to be here…ok?

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Good luck! I hope I get to meet some of you… xxx

So What Makes a Good #submissive?

Hmmm…full moon last night and a slightly flat show…pity! That would be one you might not rush to listen to the podcast. But I did realise that, despite being around and in ‘The Scene’ for the last 2 years, I am still unlearned in many ways. For all intensive purposes, I remain a ‘newbie’ submissive.

Ballsy Billy (from mastererotica60) proffered this:

What makes a good submissive? What marks a submissive from a player or wannabe?  What follows is a compiled list of traits. Listed are the ones that seemed to be desired by a majority of dominants. I feel that almost all of these traits are what makes a good person not just a successful submissive.

Many of these things intertwine with each other. These are some personal beliefs of what makes a good submissive as well as a good person.  You may or may not agree!?  Most of these can be applied to any relationship, not just those within BDSM. I list them in alphabetical order for ease of reading.

Acceptance:

This is the ability to see and accept yourself for who and what you are, be they your good points or your bad ones. This includes knowing your limitations yet keeping the thought that things can change and knowing you will change as well. This is the ability to let yourself be who you are, to take pride and pleasure in the person you are, and not lose that acceptance because someone said you are not what you know you are.

Communication:

This is the ability to talk openly and honestly about what is in your heart and mind, your opinions and beliefs, your needs vs. your wants, your responses or reactions, basically to be able to talk about everything. This ability also calls into play the honesty of the submissive and the dominant. Once open communication has been established it should remain that way and will do so provided the submissive does not stop communicating honestly. To not communicate is to endanger yourself physically (as well as emotionally). Communication need not always be verbal. Just so long as what you need to say to your partner, gets said to them, then the lines of communication stay open. For example, you may find a particular topic easier to write about in your journal and thus “tell” your partner that way. This is still communicating.

Courtesy (aka Manners):

This one is fairly self explanatory but many people have asked me for specifics on courtesy. Since the specifics of this one vary with each relationship, I will only address general manners. It is the ability to show proper courtesy by using please and thank you, addressing people with general respect and courtesy.

Grace:

This is another whose specifics vary with each relationship, but is basically the ability to not appear stilted or halting in your movements. I’m not sure this one is of major importance to many people, but I list it here anyway as it has come up frequently. Of course this may be affected by physical limitations that will reduce its importance.

Growth:

The ability to grow within yourself, look for and attain new goals. Be these mental, emotional or physical goals. The ability to continue to grow and sharpen your abilities is very important as it prevents the relationship from stagnating helps you to grow as a submissive and thus discover new ways to please or serve your dominant.

Honesty:

Personally I feel this shouldn’t need to be said, but there are far too many people who lack honesty so it has to be said. Honesty is the ability to speak up, be open and truthful about what you say. Don’t hide your emotions, fears, limits, fantasies, ideas and thoughts. Don’t tell the dominant what you think he/she wants to hear. A successful submissive is an honest person, one who does not lie, deceive, or intentionally manipulate. Honesty builds trust. Trust is the basis of a relationship. To lie, breaks down the trust and therefore the relationship by removing it’s very foundation.

Humility:

This is basically the ability to see yourself as fallible. A successful submissive knows they will make mistakes; that they are not perfect. A successful submissive admits his/her mistakes, and strives to correct them. Giving off an attitude of being better than anyone else, is not a desired trait. Having a sense of pride is good, but humility is necessary to prevent one from being arrogant.

Intelligence:

By intelligence I don’t mean book smart, the ability to do long involved mathematical equations or pull apart and rebuild a computer. As it applies to a successful submissive intelligence is the ability to think for themselves. The ability to make informed decisions about who to submit to and just how far their submission goes. The ability to take the time to learn their partner outside the roles of dominant and submissive, to learn them as the person they are, their likes and dislikes. The ability to learn what pleases their dominant and remembers those things.

Loyalty:

This is a very important trait in a submissive. It is the ability to uphold your dominants rules over anyone else. A successful submissive will not act in a manner that will raise doubts about his/her commitment to their dominant. It is upholding your end of the agreement made with your partner to the best of your abilities. This can also mean standing by your partner when difficulties arise. This tends to come hand in hand with commitment and both are necessary for a long term relationship to survive.

Obedience:

This is exactly what is in everyday life, the ability to do what you are told. Within a power exchange relationship this means willingly following the terms of your dominant and doing what you are told. Willing obedience is pleasing to the submissive as well as the dominant. This can directly relate to the person’s submissiveness. A submissive does not obey because they fear their dominant, they obey because they have an intense need to please the dominant. This does not mean blind obedience (never question anything). Specifics regarding obedience do vary with each relationship, but obeying one’s dominant is part of a power exchange relationship and is expected.

Open Mind:

This is the ability to view things with as little preset prejudice as possible. To maintain the ability to learn new things and be open to trying something new or different. It directly compliments Growth.

Patience:

That is the ability to wait for things. Being pushy is aggravating. This does not mean to push your most urgent needs aside, but to learn the difference between what a necessity is and what is not and to convey these things to the dominant.

Pride: (self-respect, self-esteem)

This does not mean be arrogant, just the knowledge of your ability. Having a sense of pride in your abilities shows that you have a healthy sense of self-esteem and your whole identity does not rely on another’s point of view. A good submissive values themselves and respects their own limits. A solid sense of self-esteem is a necessity for a submissive or they can become co-dependent upon the dominant, relying on the dominant for their own mental picture of themselves. Humility is part of this as well.

Respect:

The ability to show respect through one’s tone of voice, manners and general attitude. A sub must respect their Dom (unless it is destroyed) and be respectful to others. This goes along with manners. Showing respect to one’s dominant should be at all times, and not just when the submissive feels like it. Yes, we have arguments in these relationships, but a submissive should strive to maintain a respectful demeanor even during such times.

Service:

Willingly completing tasks (sexual or otherwise) set for you by your dominant. As well to apply your observations to the things you do to please your dominant. Service usually points to those things outside of sexual ones and play (sessions). Such things as housework, cooking, and other things designed to make the home of the dominant more pleasing to him/her. Service can include tasks set for you by the dominant which do not fall under household chores. Perhaps the household budgeting is one task the dominant sets upon you, cooking his/her favorite meal, and many other things can be service. Basically anything done with the direct intent to please the dominant in some manner can be seen as service.

Submissiveness:

This can be taught or an inherent personality trait. This is the need to please others and by doing so pleasing yourself. As well, it is the ability to give in (so to speak) to another’s control and feel content doing so. Submissiveness as a learned behavior does occur in bdsm relationships. This usually happens as the submissive gains experience and thus grows in their submission. However, if a person has to learn to submit against their natural inclinations not to, then submission is probably not for them.

Trust:

A submissive must be able to trust themselves, the choices they make and be able to trust others. An overly wary or closed submissive, will have a more difficult time attaining a good relationship with a dominant. Being able to trust your instincts is necessary for a submissive, especially when looking for a dominant because your instincts will often tell.